Domestic Abuse

Bizzzz! Bizzzz! Bizzzz! The annoying sound reminded her of her existence.   Dreams – daydreams, where life is perfect and just the way she wants it to be. Where you can play “happy family” and there is no hurt and there is no pain. It’s warm, happy and comfortable. Then you snap out of it and you’re back in the real world. Dreaming is Abigail’s favorite thing to do, but she can’t dream when he’s there though—that’s not allowed. She rolled out of bed only to realize it was 7 am and had only ten minutes to cook him his Sunday breakfast and begin walking on her egg shells. Her thoughts are filled with, “I’m late, what a horrible wife I am. He’s right, I am ugly, stupid, and can’t do anything right.  I have no right to speak to my mother, family members, friends—no one.  I deserve this.”

Then there’s Mama Jones that only cares about perfecting her makeup in the morning and cooking her husband’s eggs sunny-side up. She doesn’t seem to care about her children, but that’s her mask she puts on to protect them.  Williams’s younger sisters showed their mother their bruises, but she always tells them it is a sign of beauty, that will soon blossom into them knowing that listening to their father’s desires is what will make them more beautiful—she is blinded. William and his sisters can never get help because their mother will yell at them if they even try. Their mother tells them that being choked until she turns purple is the right punishment for not cooking their dad’s breakfast on time. William wants to be saved, but what can a seven-year old boy do? If he speaks, silence will be the only thing that will be heard— that’s what he thought…

Domestic violence is a violent or aggressive behavior within the home, typically involving the violent abuse of a spouse or partner. Every nine seconds in the U.S, a woman is assaulted or beaten. Around the world, at least every 1/3 women has been beaten coerced into sex or otherwise abused during her lifetime More than car accidents, muggings and rapes combined, domestic violence is the leading cause of injury to women. Based on reports from 10 countries, between 55% and 95% of women who had been physically abused by their partners’ never contacted non-governmental organizations, shelters or the police for help.  If you know anyone who is suffering from domestic violence, but are not receiving help, speak out and be the voice for them.

We live in America: land of the free, home of the brave. We encourage freedom. We encourage girls especially, to embrace what they want. The sense of security America provides, leads girls to strive for something better.  What we do not realize is that in other parts of the world, it is not like that. Girls are shunned; they are locked away and hidden. When in public, they hide beneath what men deem to be appropriate.

Domestic violence is seen less in America compared to other parts of the world. In America, seeing domestic violence causes a public uproar; therefore, it is seen less in America than in other countries such as India, Afghanistan, Iraq, and Nepal. In these countries, domestic violence is just like walking your dog or eating dinner every night; it’s a normal lifestyle.

For domestic violence there are many services for help. If you know anyone who is a victim of domestic violence, be the voice for them. Listed below are services that you as well as the victim can acquire.

Sussex County

DOMESTIC ABUSE & SEXUAL   ASSAULT INTERVENTION SERVICES
P.O. Box 805, Newton, NJ 07860
Emergency Shelter
24 Hr. Hotline:
(Collect Calls Accepted)
(973) 875-1211
TTY:
Office:
Fax:
Email:
Web:
(973) 875-6369
(973) 579-2386
(973) 579-3277
info@dasi.org
www.dasi.org
Outreach
Ph:
TTY:
Fax:
(973) 579-2386
(973) 579-6593
(973) 579-3277
Sexual Assault Services
PO Box 805, Newton, NJ 07860
24 Hr. Hotline
Ph:

TTY
Fax:
(973) 875-1211
(973) 300-5609
(973) 875-6369
(973) 579-3277
TRANSITIONAL HOUSING   AVAILABLE

 

 

 

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